Tea Time with Sexologist Megan Andelloux
Also known as “OhMegan,” Ms. Andelloux is a licensed sexpert who recently brought her lecture on female sexual pleasure to the Tufts campus. Anna Burgess interviewed “OhMegan” last week and wrote this article, documenting their tea time conversation in all its lusty, informative, and downright nasty detail.
It is a chilly Thursday evening, and I am sitting in Danish Pastry House with Megan Andelloux. We are situated at a cozy corner table, surrounded by the smell of baking and the soft chatter of other diners. Between sips of tea, Andelloux shares amusing anecdotes and pieces of wisdom, things she has acquired over the course of her career. It is a fairly typical interview—except for the part about sex with goats.
Why are we sitting in a coffee shop discussing bestiality? Because Andelloux, a 34-year-old Massachusetts native, is a sex educator and licensed sexologist known on various college campuses as “OhMegan.” Talking about sex is not only a big part of her life, it is the basis of her entire career. She runs a sexual resource center in her home of Pawtucket, Rhode Island, in addition to traveling to college and medical school campuses to give sex lectures. This is what has brought her to Tufts University tonight.
Tonight’s lecture, she explains, is focused on female sexual pleasure, with a little bit of male thrown in. Of her numerous lectures, this one is one of her most popular—which isn’t exactly hard to believe. As she explains this lecture’s popularity, I can almost see the faces in the crowd: eager, expectant girls and hopeful boys thanking god that someone has finally thrown them a rope.
Some other favorites include her oral sex and fornication workshops, a workshop on sexual fantasies, and “Get Wet,” which focuses on sexual politics. She’s been invited to Tufts for the second year in a row by Tufts Voices for Change (VOX). Megan is commonly hired to lecture at schools by student groups like VOX; rarely, she says, does a college administration reach out to her. Again, not exactly hard to believe.
This brings us to a very important aspect of “OhMegan”’s career—the controversy surrounding her field. Ever since childhood, Andelloux has fought against a culture that says talking about sex is taboo, inappropriate, or even downright wrong. Growing up, she says, “[in my house] it was, ‘good girls do not talk about this,’” and her parents refused to discuss sex with her. As she got older, she discovered that talking about sex didn’t have to involve a cranky, middle-aged gym teacher robotically listing STD facts. It could be fun, and interesting—so interesting to Andelloux that while studying at the University of Rhode Island, she majored in Human Development and Family Studies, with a minor in Human Sexuality.
After college, she worked at Planned Parenthood for nine years, in Connecticut and New Jersey. Here she encountered, to her frustration, more people who stood in the way of her openness. “Planned Parenthood doesn’t talk about certain things,” she tells me. As all I’ve heard about the organization up until this point involves free condoms, I don’t consider myself an expert on the subject. I discover that I am far from one, as Andelloux explains how she was called into her boss’ office multiple times a year every year for discussing things she “wasn’t supposed to.”
Though she left Planned Parenthood several years ago, there are still people who tell her that talking about sex is just not acceptable. “I’ve been called a prostitute, just because I talk about it,” she says frankly. “Even by people in my field, I’ve been told to tone it down.”
But she is defiant to those who try to quiet her, or tell her that wearing flashy makeup and a cute dress when talking about sex is asking for it. “It’s a legitimate field, folks,” is her response to these people. I then discover just how legitimate her field is, as she explains that there is only one board that can certify a sexologist, and that board is very strict.
She tells me about the training she went through in order to get certified, which includes watching hours upon hours of, well, sex. The point of this, Andelloux says, is to see “everything,” and then to process what you’ve seen in order to be prepared for any sexual scenario. Which is how we come to be talking about the goats. “If someone says to me, ‘I like to fuck goats,’ I’m like, ‘ok,’” she says, shrugging. I nod, in awe of how matter-of-factly she deals with this topic.
I have to ask, does anything faze her when it comes to sex? Though I half expect a ‘nope’ and another shrug, the answer is yes. “Someone put hand sanitizer in her vagina to prevent pregnancy. [That] fazed me,” she says. She tells me that of all the things people have said at her lectures, that particular comment sticks out in her mind. Recalling it, she seems genuinely concerned that someone could be so dangerously ignorant. Another sad story she tells is about one school that she’s lectured at multiple times. With each visit, multiple boys have come to her on the verge of tears, terrified that because they’re uncircumcised no one will ever want to be with them.
She has funny stories, too—once she read a question out loud that turned out to be a come-on—and some that seem unbelievable. Apparently, “there’s a pocket in Colorado where a lot of guys can auto-fellate,” though what performing oral sex on oneself has to do with geography, I’ll never know. But despite her many colorful and crazy stories, Andelloux takes what she does very seriously. She has based her career on something about which she feels passionate, and with her lectures she is attempting to reach out to students. “It’s OK to talk about it, that’s my thing,” she tells me. “I know that I push people’s buttons, and I do that for a reason…I challenge the gender roles I was brought up to believe.” With Andelloux, it is a personal triumph that she does what she does, and now she is dedicated to teaching what was never taught to her.
Towards the end of our interview, I ask one question for curiosity’s sake: what’s the best advice she can give about sex in general? “Masturbate,” she says immediately, in her patented frank tone. “It reduces stress, gets rid of headaches, helps cuts heal faster. And it helps you sleep.”
Who can argue with that?